Its no one’s fault. It’s not her fault, or my fault, or my dad’s fault. Sometimes, being adopted is great. Sometimes it sucks.
We had a great evening. We sang the song of her adoption, did a meditation and had a great oatmeal dinner. It was a good ending to a sad day.
She was asked not to return to her day care.
I explained this to her, some say I shouldn’t have, but no one likes getting bit. It was also a sad day because we have seen this coming. When she was two we asked for a referral for therapy, but our state does not refer children under three. Which brings me to my next point
STATES ARE CUTTING ADOPTION ASSISTANCE PROGRAMS.
Which means the money that we are scheduled to recieve upon adoption may not be there. It means that the therapy she is just now getting will not be covered after her adoption. For us, its not a problem. No, we’re not rich, we’re just dedicated to this child. Will cut backs prevent us from adopting any other children out of the foster care system? Maybe.
Adoption assistance will also deter many other middle and middle-low income families from adopting. It ensures that more kids will be stuck in foster homes and never experience a “forever” family. Here is some information:
From the North American Council Adoptable Children report
- Subsidies ensure that children experience the benefits of adoption.
- Adoption subsidies make it possible for special needs children to find forever families who require additional resources to help them thrive.
- adoption subsidies save billions of dollars–government saving for 50,000 children adopted from foster care could range from 3.3-6.3 billion dollars when compared to maintaining those youth in care until they are 18.
More on this later…now, lunch.